Reflections on life at “De Witte Wand”…

Category: Society

  • Reading Faces

    Fasty Twister over at the I Blame The Patriarchy blog reminds me about the psychology tests on the BBC’s Science and the Body web site, and in particular the Spot the Fake Smile. The last time I tried the test, the web site crashed, so I gave up in disgust.
     
    This time, though, I completed the test and I was pleased to see that I got 15 out of 20 correct answers. I did better than I thought I would, so I’m pleased. Fasty, being a misanthrope, undoubtedly did better.
  • Artifacts That Last

    My irony meter went into the red zone when I read this. However, I don’t think it applies to all examples of the genre. My collector editions of Physique Pictorial* are unlikely to last to the next (non-humanoid?) civilisation.
     
    * As Kenneth Horne used to claim: I bought it for the gardening section.
  • Catch-22

    Ophelia, over at ButterfliesAndWheels, puts her finger on why it’s really rather a good idea to keep the state separate from religion.
  • Strank And Fisher

    It sounds somewhat like the name of a legal firm, but Ron Strank and Roger Fisher are two rather ordinary blokes who have been together for 45 years. Read their story here.
  • Protests Over Iran Hangings

    The reaction to the two Iranian teenagers hanged for being gay continues. Doug Ireland, over at the DIRELAND blog, reports on planned protests, and gives useful background information to the homophobic atmosphere that pervades Iran at the moment.
  • Sad To Be Gay – Part 2

    Well, I watched the programme. Akinsanya was not such a basket case as I had feared, but the Love in Action crowd were every bit as deluded as I thought they would be. Akinsanya’s problem seemed to boil down to the fact that he expected to find true love in the middle of the gayscene, with its muscle marys, drugs, disco and one-night stands. Er, sorry, David, but (a) the chances are small (but not, I grant you, zero) and (b) there’s more to life than the gayscene, and you don’t have to pretend that you’re not gay in order to find it.
     
    At least by the end of the programme he seemed to have realised that he could be a father figure to his godchildren. Perhaps now if he stops looking for true love (particularly in all the wrong places), it will sneak up on him. And to give him credit, he sussed out the LiA crowd for the bunch of religious nutters that they are pretty damn quick.
     
    Mind you, Wayne Besen didn’t exactly strike me as someone I’d like to spend an evening with either – as David said, he had his own agenda.
     
    What it seemed to boil down to in the end was the willingness of people to believe in illusions. Akinsanya believing that his happiness depended on him not being gay, and the LiA crowd believing that religion was the answer to turning gay people straight. Smoke and mirrors in both cases, but oh, how some people sincerely want to be fooled.
  • Sad To Be Gay…

    …that’s the title of a programme to be broadcast on BBC2 tomorrow night.
     
    The synopsis makes pretty depressing reading – but at the risk of pre-judging it, I will stick my neck out and say that (a) David sounds a pretty depressed character to start with and (b) the treatment centre in America that promises "freedom from homosexuality through the power of Jesus Christ" sounds like a vision of hell here on earth, particularly when we learn that ‘many of the centre’s staff and its clients are also "struggling with same sex attraction".’
     
    It sounds like a real barrel of laughs.
     
    When will these idiots get it through their heads that sexual orientation is akin to handedness. Consider:
    "Here is the profile of a trait on which clinical research has been done for decades. It is taken from the published scientific literature. The trait should be rather obvious:
    1. This human trait is referred to by biologists as a "stable bimorphism"- it shows up in all human populations as two orientations- expressed behaviorally.
    2. The data clinicians have gathered says that around 92% of the population has the majority orientation, 8% has the minority orientation.
    3. Evidence from art history suggests the incidence of the two different orientations has been constant for five millennia.
    4. The trait has no external physical, bodily signs.  That means you can’t tell a person’s orientation by looking at them. And the minority orientation appears in all races and ethnic groups.
    5. Since the trait itself is internal and invisible, the only way to identify an orientation is by observing the behavior or the reflex that expresses it. However-and this is crucial-
    6. – because the trait itself is not a "behavior" but an internal, invisible orientation, those with the minority orientation can hide, usually due to coercion or social pressure, by behaving as if they had the majority orientation. Several decades ago, those with the minority orientation were frequently forced to behave as if they had the majority orientation- but internally the orientation remained the same and as social pressures have lifted, people with the minority orientation have been able to openly express it.
    7. Clinical observation makes it clear that neither orientation of this trait is a disease or mental illness. Neither is pathological in any observable way.
    8. Neither orientation is chosen.
    9. Signs of one’s orientation are detectable very early in children, often, researchers have established, by age two or three. And one’s orientation probably has been defined at the latest by age two, and quite possibly before birth.

    These data indicated that the trait was biological, not social, in origin, so the clinicians systematically asked more questions. And these started revealing the genetic plans that lay underneath the trait:

    1. Adoption studies show that the orientation of adopted children is unrelated to the orientation of their parents, demonstrating that the trait is not created by upbringing or society.
    2. Twin studies show that pairs of identical twins, with their identical genes, have a higher-than-average chance of sharing the same orientation compared to pairs of randomly selected individuals; the average rate of this trait in any given population- it’s called the "background rate"-is just under 8%, while the twin rate is just above 12%, more than 50% higher.
    3. This trait’s incidence of the minority orientation is strikingly higher in the male population- about 27% higher-than it is in the female population. Many genetic diseases, for reasons we now understand pretty well, are higher in men than women.
    4. Like the trait called eye color, the familial studies conducted by scientists show that the minority orientation clearly "runs in families," handed down from parent to child.
    5. This pattern shows a "maternal effect," a classic telltale of a genetic trait. The minority orientation, when it is expressed in men, appears to be passed down through the mother.
    Put all this data together, and you’ve created the trait profile. The trait just described is, of course, handedness."
    The above comes from an article written by Chandler Burr and it’s worth reading.
    There was a time when the left-handedness trait was actively considered sinful, and great attempts were made to stamp it out. Nowadays, people do not apply moral judgements to it. How long will it be before the same applies to the various expressions of sexual orientation?
     
     
  • On Being a Mother Hen

    I was asked to look after a teenager last Saturday. This is not something I often get a chance to do. The background is that an acquaintance of ours has a 15 year old daughter. The daughter wanted to see the Amsterdam Canal Parade (she’s lesbian), but the parents were unable to take her, and didn’t really want to let her go by herself into the big, bad city of Amsterdam.
     
    So yours truly stepped in and offered to be the mother hen for the day.
     
    I have to say it was an absolute delight. The daughter was really excited about seeing her first Canal Parade (and I was somewhat astonished to learn that this would be only her second time ever of being in the centre of Amsterdam. I mean, it’s not as if Gouda is a million miles away).
     
    What made it a delight was the fact that she is so open and natural about herself. When I was 15, I was terrified about anyone finding out that I was – shudder – gay, least of all my parents. And yet here she is, totally accepting about her whole self, and, what’s more, so are her parents – who were really pleased that I had agreed to chaperone her during the day.
     
    She had a great time – and so did I.
  • The Amsterdam Canal Parade – Part 3

    I’m putting a selection of the photos I took at the Parade into a photo set up on Flickr here. There’s over 180 photos at the moment, and I’ve got more to add…
     

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  • The Amsterdam Canal Parade 2005 – Part 1

    Yesterday, 6 August, was when this year’s Canal Parade, organised by the G. B. A. (the Gay Business Amsterdam Foundation) was held. It was the tenth anniversary of this event. What started out as merely an excuse for a party has evolved over the years to have a political tinge. This year, perhaps more than ever, the message behind the horns, the whistles and the heavy disco dance music was: "We’re Here, We’re Queer – Get Used to It!"
     
    The parade was led by a boat draped in white carrying the photograph of the two teenagers hanged on the 19th July in Iran for the ‘crime’ of being gay. A sombre beginning to a parade that, despite the occasional shower, delighted the 350,000 onlookers lining the Amsterdam canals.
     

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  • Zach’s Back

    Zach has apparently returned from his stay in the Love in Action facility and announces the fact. The comments, and Zach’s occasional reactions in the comments thread make interesting reading.
     
    Bottom line? I don’t know what’s true and what isn’t in this story. If Zach has in fact written this last entry in his blog then he seems to be a strong young man who will bend with the wind in order to continue growing. I hope so.
  • Stevie and The Empress of China

    I make a point of reading Flea’s One Good Thing  blog, because her postings generally do one of two things (or both): they make me laugh out loud, or they make me reflect on the human condition.
     
    This post: Stevie made me do both. In it she talks about a documentary – Stevie – and muses on the real-life characters and the events that occur around them. I haven’t seen the documentary, but her description of the events and her reflection on how us humans can behave for good or ill makes me want to seek it out. The mainspring for the events in the documentary is how someone who was abused as a child can often grow up to be an adult who also abuses.
     
    That got me thinking about an old Dory Previn song, The Empress of China:
    i tell you how i hate you
    in the voice my father used
    you answer with your mother’s worn cliches
    and in another life
    your father hears his wife
    and i see his fury blazing in your gaze
     
    an echo hears an echo
    and my mother’s fist is raised
    the hand i clench at you
    shows her distrust
    the way one behaves
    is determined in the graves
    of all the great grandparents
    gone to dust
    I used to be playing Dory Previn’s records all the time in the early 1970s. I had the distinct feeling that she was slightly insane, but she had the soul of a poet and wrote eerie unsettling songs:
    did jesus have a baby sister?
    was she bitter?
    was she sweet?
    did she wind up in a convent?
    did she end up on the street?

    did she long to be the saviour
    saving everyone she met?
    and in private to her mirror
    did she whisper saviourette?
    Whatever happened to Dory Previn? According to this web site, she’s still with us, for which I am glad. But, I think the opinion on this page comes closest to expressing my own feelings on the subject.
     
    Postscript: Dory Previn issued her own protest against the Iraq War in March 2003 – you can download it from here.
  • The Miniature Earth

    The Miniature Earth – go and watch it now.
     
    (hat tip to Alas, a Blog)
  • Love Is The Answer

    While I doubt that I would agree with Giles Fraser, vicar of Putney, over many aspects of his religion, he has always struck me as a particularly humane and sensible man. That feeling was confirmed when I read his latest column in The Guardian railing at the Bishops of the Church of England who have declared that "civil partnerships are not a form of marriage". As he says:
    Many bishops want the image of homosexuality confined to public toilets – so much easier to condemn. Consequently, clergy have been forbidden from blessing civil partnerships. We can bless battleships, and cats and dogs at the pet service: just not gay couples wanting to commit to a lifelong relationship.
    I think he’s just as exasperated as I am over their crass idiocy.
  • Dying To Kill

    "Dying to Kill" – that phrase graces the cover of the August 2005 issue of Prospect magazine. Given the moral universe in which I live, it’s a phrase that I find supremely unsettling. But clearly, there are those who live in a completely different moral universe and to whom this phrase is an edict of aspiration. One such, Hassan Butt, is interviewed in the magazine. Read the interview.
     
    Elsewhere in the web version of the magazine, Ayaan Hirsi Ali puts her finger on the definitions of the two moral universes:
    Those who love freedom know that the open society relies on a few key shared concepts. They believe that all humans are born free, are endowed with reason and have inalienable rights. Governments are checked by the rule of law, so that civil liberties are protected. They ensure freedom of conscience and of expression, and ensure that men and women, homosexuals and heterosexuals, are treated equally under the law. People can trade freely, and may spend their recreational time as they wish.
     
    The terrorists, and the Shari’a-based societies to which they aspire, have an entirely different philosophy. Humans are born to serve Allah through a series of obligations that are prescribed in an ancient body of writings. These edicts vary from rituals of birth and funeral rites to the most intimate details of human life; they descend to the point of absurdity in matters such as how to blow your nose, and with what foot to step into a toilet. Muslims, according to this philosophy, must kill those among them who leave the faith, and are required to be hostile to people of other religions and ways of life. This hostility requires them to murder innocent people and makes no distinction between civilians and the military. In Shari’a societies, women are made subordinate to men. They must be confined to their houses, beaten if found disobedient, forced into marriage and hidden behind the veil. The hands of thieves are cut off and capital punishment is performed in crowded public squares in front of cheering crowds. The terrorists seek to impose this way of life not only on Islamic countries, but, as Blair said, on western societies too.
    Give me the open society every time.
  • Crank Dot Net

    I came across Crank Dot Net today – a web site devoted to collecting links to material published on the web by cranks, crazies, and the simply misguided. It’s a salutary experience to use the site as a jumping-off point to visit the wider reaches of the human propensity for credulity. However, I do find myself having to come up for air after a very short while of trawling through the tripe.
     
    I think there must also be some sort of correlation between craziness and the inability to construct a web site without resorting to coloured text on a black background.
  • A Fatwa For Freedom

    A fascinating and true story by Robert Tait in today’s Guardian: the life story of Maryam Khatoon Molkara.
  • Bouyeri Behind Bars

    Mohammed Bouyeri has received a life sentence for his murder of Theo van Gogh. I trust that he will have a long life in the hope that he will reflect long and hard on what he did. Mind you, he starts from a bad place: ‘Clutching a copy of the Koran, he said that "the law compels me to chop off the head of anyone who insults Allah and the prophet".’ Clearly not too much remorse there at the moment, then. 
  • Franklin Kameny

    He was one of my heroes. Good to read that he’s still going strong.
  • What Not To Write

    Jason Kuznicki, over at Positive Liberty, quotes an example of the sort of letter he receives several times a year. The contrast between the fantasy of the letter-writers and the reality of Jason’s photos is very telling. But what I find distressing is trying to imagine the depths of self-denial and self-hatred that surely must seem to exist in the minds of these letter-writers. To be trapped in such a prison of your own making like that is not something I would wish on anyone.
     
    On a lighter note, I have to say that I’ve never received any letters like that. I’m obviously considered a lost cause.